living with abusers [cc]

A look at the navigating life with abusers.
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opening quote:
I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I see it there.
I still fall … it’s a habit …
—Portia Nelson, Autobiography in five short chapters
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0:00 control and coercion
2:55 assessing risk — looking at the abuser with a cold eye
12:39 distancing manoeuvres — looking at how we can remove the hooks
22:26 counteracting poison — finding clean water
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subtitles
Bulgarian: Djeitko
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references/reading
Andreassen, C.S., Pallesen, S. and Griffiths, M.D. (2017) The relationship between addictive use of social media, narcissism, and self-esteem: findings from a large national survey. Addictive Behaviors 64, pp.287–293
Danesh, H.B. (1978) The authoritarian family and its adolescents. Canadian Psychiatric Association Journal 23 (7) pp.479-485
Fan, C.Y., Chu, X.W., Zhang, M. and Zhou, Z.K. (2019) Are narcissists more likely to be involved in cyberbullying? Examining the mediating role of self-esteem. Journal of Interpersonal Violence 34 (15) pp.3127-3150.
Nelson, P. (1993) There’s a hole in my sidewalk. Beyond Words publishing, Oregon.
Oesterreich, D. (2005) Flight into security: a new approach and measure of the authoritarian personality. Political psychology 26 (2) pp.275-297
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