letting go of fixing people [cc]

An exploration of some of the reasons our attempts to fix people in abusive situations fail — and how we might approach things differently.
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opening quote:
Yesterday, upon the stair,
I met a man who wasn’t there.
He wasn’t there again today.
I wish, I wish he’d go away ....
—Antigonish, William Hughes Mearns
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0:00 the desire to fix
1:08 how change happens — or is avoided
5:35 how empath and narcissists enter gridlock
14:43 sympathy, empathy and over-identification
24:50 some more productive areas to focus on
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subtitles
Bulgarian: Djeitko
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references:
Beutler, L.E., Moleiro, C. and Talebi, H. (2002) Resistance in psychotherapy: What conclusions are supported by research. Journal of clinical psychology 58 (2) pp.207-217
Bradbury, R. (1950) The Martian Chronicles. Doubleday, Garden City
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