When "Helping" is UN-Helpful (For Codependents) - Terri Cole

Are you a natural-born helper? Are you someone who is always willing to lend a hand or advice even if no one asked? Does it feel like your helping is on auto-pilot or even compulsive?

Do you ever wonder if there are times when helping maybe…isn’t that helpful?

In this episode, I’m breaking down what constitutes unhealthy helping. You’ll also learn what you can do so you can get back some of your bandwidth and increase your potential for intimacy and authentic connection with the people in your life.

Download the free guide that goes with this episode here: https://terricole.com/unhelpful-guide

TIME STAMPS:
0:00 - Introduction
1:33 - What is helping and what is unhelpful helping? An overview
2:13 - Examples of unhelpful helping
4:41 - How codependency factors into unhelpful helping
7:55 - My experience of being codependent in my 20s
10:55 - Developing more awareness around unhelpful helping
12:35 - What you can do to help in a healthy way
13:52 - An extreme example (from my life) of unhealthy helping and disordered boundaries
16:21 - Learning how to stop auto fixing

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ABOUT TERRI COLE
Terri Cole is a licensed psychotherapist, global relationship and empowerment expert, and the author of Boundary Boss-The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen and (Finally) Live Free.

For over two decades, Terri has worked with a diverse group of clients that includes everyone from stay-at-home moms to celebrities and Fortune 500 CEOs.

She has a gift for making complex psychological concepts accessible and actionable so that clients and students achieve sustainable change. She inspires over 450,000 people weekly through her blog, social media platform, signature courses, and her popular podcast, The Terri Cole Show. For more, see https://www.terricole.com/

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