OCD Treatment: Getting Rid of OCD and Shame
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OCD Treatment: Getting Rid of
OCD Treatment: Getting Rid of OCD and Shame
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Some of you have keys on your keychain and you don't even know what they're for anymore. About a year ago, I made a video about OCD and it caused a lot of controversies because I think people didn't understand it. I've been working with people with OCD for a really long time and I've known a lot of people really close to me that have obsessions and compulsions that lead them to do patterns.
Sometimes they're just doing patterns and it's mildly annoying and other times it is so annoying and overwhelming that it takes up a big portion of their lives.
This causes a huge amount of suffering.
People come and go into this state of being. Often people stay in it for a really long time and it gets worse, and there's less and less they feel they can do in their lives. What I notice about all of these people is that there's something that drives that.
Usually, it's guilt and shame.
I understand this because I see this as the root of so many problems in our life -- fear, guilt, and shame. If we really unpack them, these roots are under all of our problems -- all of them. So why wouldn't they be the root of OCD?
What I started to notice when I'm working with people with OCD and OCPD is that there are this guilt and shame about doing their patterns. Then, they get really frustrated, overwhelmed, and hate the fact they have this problem. This frustration and overwhelm is bigger in energy than the original pattern, which makes them more obsessed.
The more we pay attention to something because we're frustrated with it, the more energy we give it, and the more obsessed we get with it. If we can get rid of some of that shame and guilt about doing the patterns, we can cut them down exponentially.
Guilt and shame feed the OCD. It gives it more power. Many people are angry and get really shamed about it, which increases their anger. They do this before they even realize it, so they just think they have an anger problem.
When I'm working with people, we ultimately want to stop their patterns, but first I want to take away the guilt and shame about doing them. When we take the energy out of the pattern and obsession, people stop them so much easier than when they’re addressing it, trying to get themselves to stop.
Of course, some patterns do hurt or harm you, so we want to stop those. But those little patterns that just drive you nuts, like making sure all of the drawers are closed or flipping the light on and off ten times -- you're not hurting anybody. Right now, try to take the guilt and shame out of it and see if you could take the power out of it.
I hope this video on OCD Treatment: Getting Rid of OCD and Shame serves you in finding hope. I have tons of videos on how to overcome fear and be happy. Subscribe and keep watching.
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Get your teens off their phone https://jodiaman.com/phone
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Read a summary of OCD Treatment: Getting Rid of OCD and Shame at https://jodiaman.com/blog/getting-rid... and add to the discussion!
Thank you so much for watching, commenting and sharing “OCD Treatment: Getting Rid of OCD and Shame!”
See you next time! Until then, let that you, that you want to be, shine through.
Love,
Jodi
xoxo
Get help: jodiaman.com/ocd for the OCD Recovery Masterclass
Some of you have keys on your keychain and you don't even know what they're for anymore. About a year ago, I made a video about OCD and it caused a lot of controversies because I think people didn't understand it. I've been working with people with OCD for a really long time and I've known a lot of people really close to me that have obsessions and compulsions that lead them to do patterns.
Sometimes they're just doing patterns and it's mildly annoying and other times it is so annoying and overwhelming that it takes up a big portion of their lives.
This causes a huge amount of suffering.
People come and go into this state of being. Often people stay in it for a really long time and it gets worse, and there's less and less they feel they can do in their lives. What I notice about all of these people is that there's something that drives that.
Usually, it's guilt and shame.
I understand this because I see this as the root of so many problems in our life -- fear, guilt, and shame. If we really unpack them, these roots are under all of our problems -- all of them. So why wouldn't they be the root of OCD?
What I started to notice when I'm working with people with OCD and OCPD is that there are this guilt and shame about doing their patterns. Then, they get really frustrated, overwhelmed, and hate the fact they have this problem. This frustration and overwhelm is bigger in energy than the original pattern, which makes them more obsessed.
The more we pay attention to something because we're frustrated with it, the more energy we give it, and the more obsessed we get with it. If we can get rid of some of that shame and guilt about doing the patterns, we can cut them down exponentially.
Guilt and shame feed the OCD. It gives it more power. Many people are angry and get really shamed about it, which increases their anger. They do this before they even realize it, so they just think they have an anger problem.
When I'm working with people, we ultimately want to stop their patterns, but first I want to take away the guilt and shame about doing them. When we take the energy out of the pattern and obsession, people stop them so much easier than when they’re addressing it, trying to get themselves to stop.
Of course, some patterns do hurt or harm you, so we want to stop those. But those little patterns that just drive you nuts, like making sure all of the drawers are closed or flipping the light on and off ten times -- you're not hurting anybody. Right now, try to take the guilt and shame out of it and see if you could take the power out of it.
I hope this video on OCD Treatment: Getting Rid of OCD and Shame serves you in finding hope. I have tons of videos on how to overcome fear and be happy. Subscribe and keep watching.
NEW book: Anxiety...I'm So Done with You! For teens and those young at heart! https://amzn.to/2zudoHZ
===========================================
My book "You 1, Anxiety 0" https://amzn.to/2OqDyAV
My TEDxWilmington talk https://jodiaman.com/tedx
Let it go: Free mp3 https://jodiaman.com/letgo
Conscious Parenting: https://jodiaman.com/conscious-parent...
Anxiety Help https://jodiaman.com/anxiety
Driving Anxiety https://jodiaman.com/drive
Get your teens off their phone https://jodiaman.com/phone
Sleep Meditations to Calm Your Mind https://jodiaman.com/sleep
Forgive Yourself and Others Masterclass https://jodiaman.com/forgive
===========================================
Find me here: https://jodiaman.com
Follow me on twitter: Twitter: jodiaman
Get notified when Jodi is live on Facebook: Facebook: jodiamanlove
Read a summary of OCD Treatment: Getting Rid of OCD and Shame at https://jodiaman.com/blog/getting-rid... and add to the discussion!
Thank you so much for watching, commenting and sharing “OCD Treatment: Getting Rid of OCD and Shame!”
See you next time! Until then, let that you, that you want to be, shine through.
Love,
Jodi
xoxo
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