How To Start Fresh In Your Marriage | Paul Friedman
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Get a fresh new start
Get a fresh new start for your marriage and fill your marriage with joy and happiness again.
In this video, Paul compares the traditional approach of going to a marriage counselor with our approach.
A marriage counselor will focus on everything bad that has happened in your marriage. You'll hash out the old issues over and over again for months or years, and never move past them. Meanwhile, you'll be paying thousands of dollars to a counselor.
With our approach, we have found that what happened in the past is irrelevant in most cases. You can put it all behind you and truly establish a fresh start.
We teach you how to build a marriage from the ground up, that is happy and lasts. From day one, you can move past the hurt, leaving in the past, and start building a happy marriage.
Our methods have proven to be much faster, more effective, and provides permanent results.
Get Paul's book, Breaking The Cycle:
https://themarriagefoundation.org/bre...
More importantly, I found it a whole different system of approaching marriage in a way that is incredibly effective and you'll get it when I compare it and when I show to you the difference between what I do and what typical traditional marriage counseling does. So think about this and ask yourself, and you know the answer.
What is the first thing that happens when you go to a marriage counselor?
Of course, they want to know some history. It takes up time after all and then they want to know, what's up?
That's the big question, what's up?
What does that really mean?
It means that they want to know the problems. They want to help you talk things out. They want to help you get to the bottom. Get to the bottom of things. They want to help you see your mistakes. All of this. You might say is, how marriage is approached by the Western
psychological approach?
They want to get to the problem. It's how they're trained if you have a phobia, if you have a problem. What they do is they work at it until they get to what they call the crux of the matter and then you're supposed to be able to dissolve it. You know what, it doesn't work, but it does remind me of a joke.
This guy goes to a psychologist and he says, "I'm really afraid every night when I go to bed. I'm afraid that there might be someone or something under my bed. Can you help me?" And the psychologist said, "Sure." And the guy says, what would it cost?
He says, "Well, you need to come in three times a week and we'll work through this
and you know probably take you about a year and it'll cost about $100 an hour." Let's see, that's $300 a week times 50 is $15,000. So the guy goes to his bartender and he tells him the same thing. The bartender says, "I'll take care of it for 10 bucks."
He says, "How can you do that?" He goes with him to his house cuts off the legs of this bed
Nothing can be under his bed. Everything is good. He's happy. My approach is not like that.
My approach is different, what I do is instead of starting here with the what's up -- honestly, it doesn't make any difference, what is up.
The real question is what should I do? What should I or we do? What should you do?
Starting here, it's a very interesting thing but a lot of people want to go back and it doesn't do any good. If you go through a hurricane, which marital problems sometimes feels like this big storm going back and analyzing the storm and what happened isn't going to help you.
It will help you to know some of the things you didn't do right and like the construction of your barn because it got away. But you could do that differently too, so what I do is I go here the starting point is now. The starting point of your marriage is right now. We don't go back, we don't rehash what has transpired. What we do and we don't need to fix just that part of your marriage that has gotten you into trouble.
We want you to have a joyous marriage. Joy-filled, by the way, what I'm describing to you now, I've been doing this for over 15 years. We're in over 30 countries. This is very successful
thousands of people are benefiting from this because we don't just fix the problems.
We don't tell you we can fix the problems. We tell you that in the future. You're not going to have problems because you're learning how to build your marriage from the bottom up. Now,
it's not as simple as your marriage because that's just what I consider foundational. The foundational knowledge of marriage really should have been learned a long time ago like going through school, but they don't teach us.
Watch the video for more.
#marriageprogram #communication #marriage #freshstart
In this video, Paul compares the traditional approach of going to a marriage counselor with our approach.
A marriage counselor will focus on everything bad that has happened in your marriage. You'll hash out the old issues over and over again for months or years, and never move past them. Meanwhile, you'll be paying thousands of dollars to a counselor.
With our approach, we have found that what happened in the past is irrelevant in most cases. You can put it all behind you and truly establish a fresh start.
We teach you how to build a marriage from the ground up, that is happy and lasts. From day one, you can move past the hurt, leaving in the past, and start building a happy marriage.
Our methods have proven to be much faster, more effective, and provides permanent results.
Get Paul's book, Breaking The Cycle:
https://themarriagefoundation.org/bre...
More importantly, I found it a whole different system of approaching marriage in a way that is incredibly effective and you'll get it when I compare it and when I show to you the difference between what I do and what typical traditional marriage counseling does. So think about this and ask yourself, and you know the answer.
What is the first thing that happens when you go to a marriage counselor?
Of course, they want to know some history. It takes up time after all and then they want to know, what's up?
That's the big question, what's up?
What does that really mean?
It means that they want to know the problems. They want to help you talk things out. They want to help you get to the bottom. Get to the bottom of things. They want to help you see your mistakes. All of this. You might say is, how marriage is approached by the Western
psychological approach?
They want to get to the problem. It's how they're trained if you have a phobia, if you have a problem. What they do is they work at it until they get to what they call the crux of the matter and then you're supposed to be able to dissolve it. You know what, it doesn't work, but it does remind me of a joke.
This guy goes to a psychologist and he says, "I'm really afraid every night when I go to bed. I'm afraid that there might be someone or something under my bed. Can you help me?" And the psychologist said, "Sure." And the guy says, what would it cost?
He says, "Well, you need to come in three times a week and we'll work through this
and you know probably take you about a year and it'll cost about $100 an hour." Let's see, that's $300 a week times 50 is $15,000. So the guy goes to his bartender and he tells him the same thing. The bartender says, "I'll take care of it for 10 bucks."
He says, "How can you do that?" He goes with him to his house cuts off the legs of this bed
Nothing can be under his bed. Everything is good. He's happy. My approach is not like that.
My approach is different, what I do is instead of starting here with the what's up -- honestly, it doesn't make any difference, what is up.
The real question is what should I do? What should I or we do? What should you do?
Starting here, it's a very interesting thing but a lot of people want to go back and it doesn't do any good. If you go through a hurricane, which marital problems sometimes feels like this big storm going back and analyzing the storm and what happened isn't going to help you.
It will help you to know some of the things you didn't do right and like the construction of your barn because it got away. But you could do that differently too, so what I do is I go here the starting point is now. The starting point of your marriage is right now. We don't go back, we don't rehash what has transpired. What we do and we don't need to fix just that part of your marriage that has gotten you into trouble.
We want you to have a joyous marriage. Joy-filled, by the way, what I'm describing to you now, I've been doing this for over 15 years. We're in over 30 countries. This is very successful
thousands of people are benefiting from this because we don't just fix the problems.
We don't tell you we can fix the problems. We tell you that in the future. You're not going to have problems because you're learning how to build your marriage from the bottom up. Now,
it's not as simple as your marriage because that's just what I consider foundational. The foundational knowledge of marriage really should have been learned a long time ago like going through school, but they don't teach us.
Watch the video for more.
#marriageprogram #communication #marriage #freshstart
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