How to ARGUE Correctly

STORY TIME 🚕
Step one for keeping those difficult discussions from going nuclear: be mindful about the setting in which you bring it up. 😆 What happened here was a simple miscalculation on Karissa’s part. The seminar was over, kids were napping, and we were on a long drive. Under normal circumstances, long car rides are actually an ideal time for us to focus on tedious subjects.

However, these weren’t normal circumstances. We were still deescalating from a long day with the kiddos in NYC, we were hungry, and Adam was nervously driving in a very unfamiliar setting… not in the headspace to make a serious business decision. And that’s okay!

It’s totally acceptable to tell your spouse it’s not a good time, as long as you don’t just leave it there. It’s important to establish when it WILL be a good time AND follow through with it, even if it’s days later (p.s. - we did end up continuing that conversation the following Monday. ha!).

Recognizing the need for a timeout and establishing a time-in are steps 1 + 2 for arguing well. Want to hear steps 3-5? We just dropped an episode yesterday that covers 5 steps for arguing in a way that actually gets you somewhere. Just search Dear Young Married Couple on YouTube, Apple, and Spotify to tune in.