The Secret to Changing Your Unwanted Habits

Creating a great relationship with yourself or others is all about creating healthy habits: getting into the habit of identifying and regulating your own feelings, getting into the habit of being mindful in conversations, or getting into the habit of resisting urges that sabotage you getting to your goals (yes, put down your phone and the Oreos). Creating a great relationship with yourself or others is also about breaking bad habits such as judging, criticizing or thinking your well-being is hinged on other people acting a certain way. The research is clear on what it takes to make healthy habits and let go of destructive ones, but there’s a not-so-secret secret to doing it right. Yup. There’s one big mistake most people make when they’re trying to change a habit and it’s why they fail. So, whether you’re here to change a relationship, your eating, or some other part of your life that’s not working, today you’ll learn the secret to making new habits that stick. Chapters 2:32 How Long Does It Really Take to Change a Habit? 5:14 Let’s Talk About What a Habit Is 13:23 two crucial keys to changing habits 19:37 Real Life Example 31:48 Action Triggers ❤️ Don’t forget to LIKE and SUBSCRIBE! 👉 Full blog and show notes: abbymedcalf.com/the-secret-to-changing-your-unwant… 👉 Grab my The Changing Habits Quicksheet: abbymedcalf.com/habit-sheet Research and Resources for The Secret to Changing Your Unwanted Habits Abby’s Changing Habits Quicksheet: abbymedcalf.com/habits Five Research-Backed Ways to Have More Self-Discipline and Self-Control: abbymedcalf.com/5-research-backed-ways-to-have-mor… Tiny Habits: How Small Changes Get Big Results: An Interview with BJ Fogg: abbymedcalf.com/tiny-habits-how-small-changes-get-… Set Intention in Just 18-Seconds with Dr. Abby Medcalf:    • How to Set Intentions in Just 18 Seco...   UCL News, How long does it take to form a habit? www.ucl.ac.uk/news/2009/aug/how-long-does-it-take-… The Power of Habit: Why We Do What We Do in Life and Business by Charles Duhigg: www.amazon.com/Power-Habit-What-Life-Business/dp/0… The Psychology of Action: Linking Cognition and Motivation to Behavior by Peter M. Gollwitzer and John A. Bargh: www.amazon.com/Psychology-Action-Cognition-Motivat… Martiny-Huenger, T., Martiny, S. E., Parks-Stamm, E. J., Pfeiffer, E., & Gollwitzer, P. M. (2017). From conscious thought to automatic action: A simulation account of action planning. Journal of Experimental Psychology: General, 146(10), 1513–1525. doi.org/10.1037/xge0000344 psycnet.apa.org/record/2017-30270-001 Gollwitzer, P. M., & Sheeran, P. (2006). Implementation Intentions and Goal Achievement: A Meta‐analysis of Effects and Processes. Advances in Experimental Social Psychology, 38, 69-119. doi.org/10.1016/S0065-2601(06)38002-1: www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S006… ------------------------------- Learn how to create and hold healthy, loving boundaries. Buy my newest book on Amazon, Boundaries Made Easy: Your Roadmap to Connection, Ease and Joy: abbymedcalf.com/boundaries For more free actionable tips, read my blog or join the email community: abbymedcalf.com/blog Buy my #1 bestselling book on Amazon, Be Happily Married: Even If Your Partner Won’t Do a Thing: abbymedcalf.com/book Dig in deeper and take one of my courses: abbymedcalf.com/shop 🎧 Listen to more in-depth, weekly tips on the Relationships Made Easy podcast: Website: abbymedcalf.com/podcast Apple: abbymedcalf.com/itunes Spotify: abbymedcalf.com/spotify Pandora: abbymedcalf.com/pandora 👋 Say hello on social: Facebook: www.facebook.com/abbymedcalf Instagram: www.instagram.com/abbymedcalfthriving LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/abbymedcalfthriving #AbbyMedcalf #habits #badhabits #relationshipadvice #personalboundaries #relationshipadvice #relationshiphelp #relationships #boundaries101 #boundaries #healthyhabits #healthyhabitsdaily