NONVIOLENT COMMUNICATION FOR BEGINNERS // HOW TO NVC
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Whether conversing with friends, family,
Whether conversing with friends, family, spouses, teachers, bosses or employees, the methods in which we’ve learned to communicate often fail us. There is much misspoken/misunderstood and all parties deal with frustration and confusion as a result. As a remedy, NVC teaches how to identify with oneself, clearly express oneself, effectively hear others and collaborate towards a solution.
❖ TIME STAMPS ❖
2:36 What is NVC?
2:56 What is the Purpose of NVC?
3:17 Why NVC?
3:34 What Has Been My Experience with NVC?
5:52 Heads Up Tips
7:03 Key Concepts
12:15 Responding to a Situation
14:55 Conflict Resolution
19:23 How does it work?
NVC, also referred to as Compassionate Communication was developed in the 1960’s by Marshall Rosenberg. It has been referred to as “a language of compassion, as a tool for positive social change, and as a spiritual practice". Essentially, it’s a model for thinking about and having an exchange with oneself and others. In Marshall’s words, NVC is employed to “create quality connection that inspires compassionate giving and receiving.” It is applicable to all interpersonal relationships and can even be used with one’s own inner dialogue.
In NVC we are careful to use accurate terminology to delineate between feelings and thoughts. We too take responsibility for our feelings, recognizing that no one else can make one person feel a certain way- there is a difference between a stimulus and the actual cause of a reaction. NVC teaches that there is always a reason behind actions. At any given time we are seeking to meet a need - Needs that are basic and universal to all humans.
We practice both expression and listening in NVC. Being heard is an important need and when one feels heard they soften in a way that allows them to then truly hear others. We practice remaining open to outcome as well. Whether we hear yes or no in response to our request, all answers are welcome because they help inform us of another’s experience and move us closer to solution. We can ease hearing “no” by shifting our perspective and imagining into what the other person might be saying “yes” too as an alternative. We can also shift our perspective in order to bring more lightness to our situation. Instead of thinking about what we don’t have, we think about “what would make life more wonderful?” Lastly, we remember that NVC is not passive. Whether we get it right or not, guessing what is going on for another person is a significant component of the practice.
There are two animals NVC references as symbols of behavior - The jackal, which is a vicious scavenger with a low-lying perspective, acting competitive, judgmental, speaking in demands, fear, blame and shame. The giraffe is powerful and gentle with a big heart and tall neck that allows for a wide perspective. The giraffe does not blame, demand, threaten or judge, they are objective and act empathetically. There are four ways one can respond to a situation: we can be a jackal outwardly, a jackal inwardly, a giraffe outwardly or a giraffe inwardly.
There are four steps when it comes to resolving conflict. They are 1. Observation 2. Feeling 3. Needs 4. Request. NVC works by dissolving tension through our natural ability to give & receive empathy. This provides the key of connection which opens a door and allows a relationship to move forward. Finally, consensual requests support progress on behalf of both parties.
✶ RECOMMENDED READING ✶
Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life by Marshall B Rosenberg
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❖ TIME STAMPS ❖
2:36 What is NVC?
2:56 What is the Purpose of NVC?
3:17 Why NVC?
3:34 What Has Been My Experience with NVC?
5:52 Heads Up Tips
7:03 Key Concepts
12:15 Responding to a Situation
14:55 Conflict Resolution
19:23 How does it work?
NVC, also referred to as Compassionate Communication was developed in the 1960’s by Marshall Rosenberg. It has been referred to as “a language of compassion, as a tool for positive social change, and as a spiritual practice". Essentially, it’s a model for thinking about and having an exchange with oneself and others. In Marshall’s words, NVC is employed to “create quality connection that inspires compassionate giving and receiving.” It is applicable to all interpersonal relationships and can even be used with one’s own inner dialogue.
In NVC we are careful to use accurate terminology to delineate between feelings and thoughts. We too take responsibility for our feelings, recognizing that no one else can make one person feel a certain way- there is a difference between a stimulus and the actual cause of a reaction. NVC teaches that there is always a reason behind actions. At any given time we are seeking to meet a need - Needs that are basic and universal to all humans.
We practice both expression and listening in NVC. Being heard is an important need and when one feels heard they soften in a way that allows them to then truly hear others. We practice remaining open to outcome as well. Whether we hear yes or no in response to our request, all answers are welcome because they help inform us of another’s experience and move us closer to solution. We can ease hearing “no” by shifting our perspective and imagining into what the other person might be saying “yes” too as an alternative. We can also shift our perspective in order to bring more lightness to our situation. Instead of thinking about what we don’t have, we think about “what would make life more wonderful?” Lastly, we remember that NVC is not passive. Whether we get it right or not, guessing what is going on for another person is a significant component of the practice.
There are two animals NVC references as symbols of behavior - The jackal, which is a vicious scavenger with a low-lying perspective, acting competitive, judgmental, speaking in demands, fear, blame and shame. The giraffe is powerful and gentle with a big heart and tall neck that allows for a wide perspective. The giraffe does not blame, demand, threaten or judge, they are objective and act empathetically. There are four ways one can respond to a situation: we can be a jackal outwardly, a jackal inwardly, a giraffe outwardly or a giraffe inwardly.
There are four steps when it comes to resolving conflict. They are 1. Observation 2. Feeling 3. Needs 4. Request. NVC works by dissolving tension through our natural ability to give & receive empathy. This provides the key of connection which opens a door and allows a relationship to move forward. Finally, consensual requests support progress on behalf of both parties.
✶ RECOMMENDED READING ✶
Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life by Marshall B Rosenberg
❂ https://www.kat-green.com/
❂ Instagram: Instagram: thegreengreen
❂ Facebook: Facebook: katlgreen
❂ Twitter: Twitter: katlgreen
❂ Pinterest: Pinterest: katlgreen
______________________________________________________________________
Footage is featured (as fair use, transformed from commentary) for educational purposes and rights remain to their respective shows and movies: Everybody Loves Raymond (CBS), KUWTK (E! Entertainment Television), Gilmore Girls (WB, CW), Modern Family (ABC).
sappheiros - dawn is under a creative commons license (CC BY 3.0)
music promoted by breakingcopyright: http://bit.ly/2OBe00v , golden hour broke for free
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